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My wife's Gma was fighting a losing battle with cancer. Well today was the day she left us and went to the mysterious beyond.

She was a wonderful woman and in the 7 or 8 years i have known her, she easily became one of my favorite people in my wife's family. She had an amazing history and always had a positive attitude towards people. Her Grand Kids and Great Grand kids could do no harm and she loved them all more then she loved herself.

She lived in England during WWII and went to sleep to bombings.
She got divorced from her first husband, back when it was taboo to do so, and didn't care what people thought.
She was an amazing Jazz singer, and would always sing at the family get togethers. She even had a Album in England. We bought a copy of it off ebay recently. lol.

I really won't be around as much for a couple weeks. I might pop in and out. but not around to make decisions or be much help.

Her wish was to be buried in England, and not sure if I am going with the wife yet or not, but if wifey goes, I definetly will want to go with her to be her support, and to Honor her G'ma



-Shedding Tears
Walter.
 
Mindwarp said:
My wife's Gma was fighting a losing battle with cancer. Well today was the day she left us and went to the mysterious beyond.

She was a wonderful woman and in the 7 or 8 years i have known her, she easily became one of my favorite people in my wife's family. She had an amazing history and always had a positive attitude towards people. Her Grand Kids and Great Grand kids could do no harm and she loved them all more then she loved herself.

She lived in England during WWII and went to sleep to bombings.
She got divorced from her first husband, back when it was taboo to do so, and didn't care what people thought.
She was an amazing Jazz singer, and would always sing at the family get togethers. She even had a Album in England. We bought a copy of it off ebay recently. lol.

I really won't be around as much for a couple weeks. I might pop in and out. but not around to make decisions or be much help.

Her wish was to be buried in England, and not sure if I am going with the wife yet or not, but if wifey goes, I definetly will want to go with her to be her support, and to Honor her G'ma



-Shedding Tears
Walter.
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So Sorry, Walter. Words fail me right now. If you need us, we're here.
She was an amazing lady and I'm sure she'll live for a very long time in your hearts.
 
:callme: if you need me.

Bro, you know that I am here for you if you need me just like you were there for me when my mom passed.

God bless you and your family. I know what your family is going through and you have my love and support.
 
I don't know you or your family's traditions or customs so please accept this from my heart and if I step over one of your lines, I beg your indulgence.

My prayers are with your wife and her family. I live in a world where hope of the resurrection is a living, daily occurence. It gives me strength without being a crutch. I pray you have some similar belief system and support group.

A loss within the family impacts all of the family. I've buried seven grandparents (four biological, one step, and two in-law), both parents, two brothers in law, and a wife. I know how I felt at each step of the way, I can only imagine how you folks feel.

Thank you for sharing her story with us. That is very special. Our stories remind folks of who we were when our presence can no longer do that. To have been a Londoner during the blitz is an honor indeed. They were a breed apart. Uncommon valor being a common virtue.

Your "playtime" will be here to help you escape or connect or whatever you need from us whenever you want to reconnect. Our love and concern goes with all of you no matter what side of the pond you are on!
 
walt, :bighug:

Meditation #17
By John Donne
From Devotions upon Emergent Occasions
(1623), XVII: Nunc Lento Sonitu Dicunt, Morieris
Perchance, he for whom this bell tolls may be so ill, as that he knows not it tolls for him; and perchance I may think myself so much better than I am, as that they who are about me, and see my state, may have caused it to toll for me, and I know not that. The church is Catholic, universal, so are all her actions; all that she does belongs to all. When she baptizes a child, that action concerns me; for that child is thereby connected to that body which is my head too, and ingrafted into that body whereof I am a member. And when she buries a man, that action concerns me: all mankind is of one author, and is one volume; when one man dies, one chapter is not torn out of the book, but translated into a better language; and every chapter must be so translated; God employs several translators; some pieces are translated by age, some by sickness, some by war, some by justice; but God's hand is in every translation, and his hand shall bind up all our scattered leaves again for that library where every book shall lie open to one another. As therefore the bell that rings to a sermon calls not upon the preacher only, but upon the congregation to come, so this bell calls us all; but how much more me, who am brought so near the door by this sickness.

There was a contention as far as a suit (in which both piety and dignity, religion and stimation, were mingled), which of the religious orders should ring to prayers first in the morning; and it was determined, that they should ring first that rose earliest. If we understand aright the dignity of this bell that tolls for our evening prayer, we would be glad to make it ours by rising early, in that application, that it might be ours as well as his, whose indeed it is.

The bell doth toll for him that thinks it doth; and though it intermit again, yet from that minute that this occasion wrought upon him, he is united to God. Who casts not up his eye to the sun when it rises? but who takes off his eye from a comet when that breaks out? Who bends not his ear to any bell which upon any occasion rings? but who can remove it from that bell which is passing a piece of himself out of this world?

No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. If a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friend's or of thine own were: any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.
 
Hey bro, Im sorry to hear about what youre going through. Ive buried too many family and friends already as well. I hope by the grace of God your wife's Grandma pulls through but in the unlikely event she does you can always shoot a pm if you need to sound off.

What I always try and do when I have lost friends or family members is try and keep their memory alive in many ways. By remembering the good more then the bad. By living each day the way they would have wanted you to. By creating a charity after my best friend past and giving the money raised from the booze cruise as a scholarship at our local HS. There are many way to honor your the existance of those who have passed and it becomes the job of those closest to that person to figure out how they would want that done.

- Matt
 
Hey mate, am truly sorry to hear that, I just lost my wife's grandparents and like your g'ma they were the favourite part of my wife's family. I can only be here in cyber for you but I feel your pain and will miss your witty repartee. Please pay my respects to your wife's family and if you do go to Blighty then drink a pint for me.
 
Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
 
Update: Well Wifeys Gma wish was to be buried in England in the same plot as her husband. We will be flying out to have her buried in England July 24th.

I will be gone from July 24th to Aug 2nd. I know its a while since she passed but we have to deal with the process of exporting her to England (5 day process + time here for her ceremony here) and Import at England that is also a 5 day process. We are having a ceremony for her here on Wednesday with all her Jazz friends and old band members :) IT was her Request to have a Jazz Party here, and we are honoring that.

If anyone is a Fan of Jazz, I will be ripping her CD this week and converting to MP3 and would not mind sharing :) some of the tracks are from when she was in England and Much younger (20-30's) and some of the tracks where of her in her 60's and 70's
 
Mindwarp said:
Update: Well Wifeys Gma wish was to be buried in England in the same plot as her husband. We will be flying out to have her buried in England July 24th.

I will be gone from July 24th to Aug 2nd. I know its a while since she passed but we have to deal with the process of exporting her to England (5 day process + time here for her ceremony here) and Import at England that is also a 5 day process. We are having a ceremony for her here on Wednesday with all her Jazz friends and old band members :) IT was her Request to have a Jazz Party here, and we are honoring that.

If anyone is a Fan of Jazz, I will be ripping her CD this week and converting to MP3 and would not mind sharing :) some of the tracks are from when she was in England and Much younger (20-30's) and some of the tracks where of her in her 60's and 70's
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I'd love to have a copy Walt.

Have a safe journey. When you get back, I have moved but will still be around Finheaven (of course).
 
Sorry to hear that you could not have known her longer.

Words are really hard at times like this so I think it's best to offer you and your family well wishes and support.

My prayers go out for you and your family.
 
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