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Ricky Williams speaks on bullygate and makes so much sense...

I agree, leave it to Ricky to put some sanity into the discussion....though I may not agree with him 100%, his assessment of the situation makes sense.....
 
His perspective is a reflection of his Eastern philosophy, one that is sorely lacking in Western culture.

In Buddhism, thought is power. Your perceptions are reality and destiny. If you view yourself as a victim, you will be a victim.

You can only be bullied if you give others the power to do so. That comes from within. Self worth is something built from within, and once you build that, outside influences cannot harm you. This is one reason why I feel that sheltering bullied kids utterly and completely is a dangerous path to take. It doesn't afford them the opportunity to develop strength from within to deal with the suffering in life.

"Happiness does not depend on what you have or who you are. It solely relies on what you think"
-Buddha
 
he makes sense and I agree Martin doesn't belong in an nfl locker room. he also says they make a point to keep coaches out of the locker room. which is why philbin wouldn't know.
 
My parents made me fight the neighborhood bully while they supervised! I put up a good fight but ultimately lost! Never got bullied again, I consider it one of my life changing moments! For the better!

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Excellent article. Another reason why Ricky Williams is my favorite athlete ever. He respects the game and enjoys it, but he sees things for what they really are. He doesnt conform to the expected norms and instead takes the time to assess the situation and give out thoughtful answers. Hes exactly right about the saved voicemails and messages, seems like Martin just needed a scapegoat. I hope Martin stays far away from the Dolphins.
 
SkapePhin said:
His perspective is a reflection of his Eastern philosophy, one that is sorely lacking in Western culture.

In Buddhism, thought is power. Your perceptions are reality and destiny. If you view yourself as a victim, you will be a victim.

You can only be bullied if you give others the power to do so. That comes from within. Self worth is something built from within, and once you build that, outside influences cannot harm you. This is one reason why I feel that sheltering bullied kids utterly and completely is a dangerous path to take. It doesn't afford them the opportunity to develop strength from within to deal with the suffering in life.

"Happiness does not depend on what you have or who you are. It solely relies on what you think"
-Buddha
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Please don't confuse kids and football players. This advice that Ricky is giving is for a grown man in a football locker room. Not a kid that is being picked on at an early age.
 
I don't agree that the best way to beat a bully is to fight a bully.

There is great wisdom in the words of Jesus the Nazarene: "turn the other cheek"

With that approach, not only do show the bully "hey, you aren't hurting me", but go a step further. You are saying "is that all? I can handle everything you got and then some. You are weak and impotent if you can only rely on force"

The most powerful changes in the world throughout history have been brought about by non-violent action over aggression, because it's the most powerful thing there is. The ability to be unbothered by the physical power of another makes one the most powerful being there is. The aggressor is forced to rethink their behavior, their tactics, and their very approach to life. Through that, you can bring about real change.

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finfanaz said:
Please don't confuse kids and football players. This advice that Ricky is giving is for a grown man in a football locker room. Not a kid that is being picked on at an early age.
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Kids should not be insulated. Instead, they should be given the tools to deal with the harsh realities of life. If they aren't given those tools early on, they will just rely on other tools to deal with their situation, such as guns and drugs...

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
 
Hazing is stupid and this "rite of passage" is crap. It doesnt toughen you up. It makes you feel like an idiot and shlep in front of your teamates.

If Joe Philbin doesnt get rid of hazing after this then he is to blame IMO. I didnt think it was neccessary before when they were doing the haircut thing (clearly Dion Jordan was not amused) and certainly think it is a bad idea now. You want your rookies to grow not be made to look like grade school yahoo's. Its embarrassing if you think about it nationally that people are witnessing the dolphins with their haircuts and dye and then these guys are on the field lookin stupid and then doing interviews. complete idiocy.
 
CattailsrEdible said:
My parents made me fight the neighborhood bully while they supervised! I put up a good fight but ultimately lost! Never got bullied again, I consider it one of my life changing moments! For the better!

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My older brother did the same thing to me and i agree completely!
 
J. David Wannyheimer said:
Yeah, uh, no. Bullies only understand one thing.
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Violence isn't the answer, compassion is. Most bullies are dealing with their own insecurities. They bully to feel more powerful in life, to drown out their own crippling insecurities. Violence doesn't solve that.

But, if you show that their violence or abuse has no effect in you, they are forced to reconsider that perspective, because it no longer makes them feel that they have power over something. It neuters them.

Then real dialogue can be made and healing can begin.
 
SkapePhin said:
With that approach, not only do show the bully "hey, you aren't hurting me", but go a step further. You are saying "is that all? I can handle everything you got and then some. You are weak and impotent if you can only rely on force"
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That's the worst thing to say. Then the bully feels like he has to keep hitting you til you give in. Bullies look for weak prey. People who won't fight back. If you push back a bit, 98% of time they back off. You don't even have to fight them, just stand your ground, and don't run away crying and/or give in like Martin unfortunately has done this whole time.

And the turn the other thing generally only works if you've got more than two cheeks. Any bully worth his salt is going to knock you down at least half a dozen times before he wonders why you keep turning the cheek.
 
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