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We all hate when are team loses and finishes out another year without a playoff appearance. It sucks as a fan and it sucks its been going on for so many years.

You have a right to feel angry and sad. Especially as you watch other teams make the post season and go on to play for the big show.

The offseason is going to be long with decisions that you both support and don’t support.

Despite it all BE GOOD TO EACH OTHER. It’s easy to lash out and blame and everything else.

If you don’t have a positive hobby outside of the Dolphins. I beg you to try and find something. There’s life and joy beyond the Miami Dolphins.
 
ANUFan said:
We all hate when are team loses and finishes out another year without a playoff appearance. It sucks as a fan and it sucks its been going on for so many years.

You have a right to feel angry and sad. Especially as you watch other teams make the post season and go on to play for the big show.

The offseason is going to be long with decisions that you both support and don’t support.

Despite it all BE GOOD TO EACH OTHER. It’s easy to lash out and blame and everything else.

If you don’t have a positive hobby outside of the Dolphins. I beg you to try and find something. There’s life and joy beyond the Miami Dolphins.
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Personally I quit dwelling on the losses a long time ago. I go into each season hoping for the best but I never let the worst bother me. I just look forward to next year and hope I am still around to see if that will finally be the year they take that step up to become a legitimate playoff team.

I spent my younger years taking the losses harder than enjoying the wins. I no longer do that and therefore I actually enjoy the season more today than I did years ago. I realize it is just a game and while I still love the game of football. Wins and losses aren’t life and death to me at this stage of my life.

So I will now look forward to see how the Dolphins continue the rebuild in free agency and the draft and look forward to the 2022 season. I have enjoyed the fact the Dolphins made a run run at the playoffs after starting the season 1-7 but I really never thought they were going to make the playoffs even after they won 7 in a row.

They just aren’t talented enough on offense to contend with the better teams in the league at this time but hopefully they will use this coming offseason to upgrade this side of the ball. Otherwise it’s another season they failed to make the playoffs but life goes on and I’m not going to get angry about something I have zero control over.
 
1972forever said:
Personally I quit dwelling on the losses a long time ago. I go into each season hoping for the best but I never let the worst bother me. I just look forward to next year and hope I am still around to see if that will finally be the year they take that step up to become a legitimate playoff team.

I spent my younger years taking the losses harder than enjoying the wins. I no longer do that and therefore I actually enjoy the season more today than I did years ago. I realize it is just a game and while I still love the game of football. Wins and losses aren’t life and death to me at this stage of my life.

So I will now look forward to see how the Dolphins continue the rebuild in free agency and the draft and look forward to the 2022 season. I have enjoyed the fact the Dolphins made a run run at the playoffs after starting the season 1-7 but I really never thought they were going to make the playoffs even after they won 7 in a row.

They just aren’t talented enough on offense to contend with the better teams in the league at this time but hopefully they will use this coming offseason to upgrade this side of the ball. Otherwise it’s another season they failed to make the playoffs but life goes on and I’m not going to get angry about something I have zero control over.
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You and I share a very similiar mentality. Sure it’s the goal to make the playoffs and win the entire thing. But we’re not there yet and sadly haven’t been there for awhile. It’s unfortunate! But there’s not you or I or anyone else can do about that.

So my goal is to watch each game and enjoy the positive moments and frown on the negative ones.

It’s honestly not good for anyone longterm healthy to dwell and be heartbroken over this stuff days, weeks, and even months on end.

This offeseason is going to be turbulent to say the least. If you ride that roll coaster then good luck to you.
 
1972forever said:
Personally I quit dwelling on the losses a long time ago. I go into each season hoping for the best but I never let the worst bother me. I just look forward to next year and hope I am still around to see if that will finally be the year they take that step up to become a legitimate playoff team.

I spent my younger years taking the losses harder than enjoying the wins. I no longer do that and therefore I actually enjoy the season more today than I did years ago. I realize it is just a game and while I still love the game of football. Wins and losses aren’t life and death to me at this stage of my life.

So I will now look forward to see how the Dolphins continue the rebuild in free agency and the draft and look forward to the 2022 season. I have enjoyed the fact the Dolphins made a run run at the playoffs after starting the season 1-7 but I really never thought they were going to make the playoffs even after they won 7 in a row.

They just aren’t talented enough on offense to contend with the better teams in the league at this time but hopefully they will use this coming offseason to upgrade this side of the ball. Otherwise it’s another season they failed to make the playoffs but life goes on and I’m not going to get angry about something I have zero control over.
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I’m kind of like you in a sense except for the growing assumptive negativity I have about everything during games. I used to let a loss bother me for days, now I get over it after Sunday. But my negativity has gotten so bad my wife doesn’t even like to watch games with me anymore. I just can’t help it after years of conditioning me to be this way. I constantly assume the worst because that’s basically what I’ve been getting from 20 plus years of watching religiously.
 
WhtCnBrwnDo4U said:
I’m kind of like you in a sense except for the growing assumptive negativity I have about everything during games. I used to let a loss bother me for days, now I get over it after Sunday. But my negativity has gotten so bad my wife doesn’t even like to watch games with me anymore. I just can’t help it after years of conditioning me to be this way. I constantly assume the worst because that’s basically what I’ve been getting from 20 plus years of watching religiously.
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I have been married nearly 49 years and my wife used to tell me that she knew how the Dolphins were doing based on how much I cheered or cursed during a game when she was on the other side of the house. She also stated I was in a terrible mood after a loss and it didn’t improve for days.

Now I just sit and watch the game and no matter how the Dolphins are playing I don’t cheer or cuss. In fact my wife has walked in on more than one occasion to see if I was asleep or actually watching the game. I watched the game yesterday and I was completely over the loss before the game even ended. It is what it is and getting upset about the results doesn’t change the results.

Of course it took me many years and many losses to get to this point but age has a way of letting you know what’s really important in life. So I understand why the younger fans are affected more by the losses but hopefully they will just look forward to the future and accept this team wasn’t good enough this year.
 
I'm good with all you guys. It's the staff I don't feel like being particularly kind to.
 
1972forever said:
I have been married nearly 49 years and my wife used to tell me that she knew how the Dolphins were doing based on how much I cheered or cursed during a game when she was on the other side of the house. She also stated I was in a terrible mood after a loss and it didn’t improve for days.

Now I just sit and watch the game and no matter how the Dolphins are playing I don’t cheer or cuss. In fact my wife has walked in on more than one occasion to see if I was asleep or actually watching the game. I watched the game yesterday and I was completely over the loss before the game even ended. It is what it is and getting upset about the results doesn’t change the results.

Of course it took me many years and many losses to get to this point but age has a way of letting you know what’s really important in life. So I understand why the younger fans are affected more by the losses but hopefully they will just look forward to the future and accept this team wasn’t good enough this year.
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I'm trying to convince my son to not take it so serious.
 
It is what it is. It’s nice to have an outlet like this to air complaints. Especially since there’s been so much to complain about for the past 20+ years.
 
ANUFan said:
We all hate when are team loses and finishes out another year without a playoff appearance. It sucks as a fan and it sucks its been going on for so many years.

You have a right to feel angry and sad. Especially as you watch other teams make the post season and go on to play for the big show.

The offseason is going to be long with decisions that you both support and don’t support.

Despite it all BE GOOD TO EACH OTHER. It’s easy to lash out and blame and everything else.

If you don’t have a positive hobby outside of the Dolphins. I beg you to try and find something. There’s life and joy beyond the Miami Dolphins.
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I understand the concept of not taking it out on each other but it's tough to do with some. I don't know why anyone is a fan if they aren't passionate about being one. To me, you should get pissed or happy based upon how the teams and things you care about in life perform. It's called passion and without passion I don't know what's the point in being alive to be honest. I'm going to keep cheering and cussing because to me, that's what it feels like to love something and to be alive. If the rest of you are better at accepting the good and bad without it impacting your conversations more power to you.
 
The Florida Panthers look legit this year. I've already moved on to watching them and have packed it in on another sub-par Dolphins season. Chris Grier could learn a few things from Panthers GM Bill Zito.
 
For many years I would be depressed after a loss. It was always the same thing; play well enough to get my hopes up and then choke when it really mattered. I'm a Dolphins fan, but not really an NFL fan. I'd only watch Miami games, and when the Dolphins were done, so was I. If Miami wasn't in the playoffs, I didn't watch them... and that includes the Super Bowl. What was especially bad was when Miami would lose a "win and you're in" game or if they got into the playoffs and then got embarrassed in the first round; their season was over, and I'd be depressed for months! It took a long time, but one year I decided to not let it bother me so much anymore. Now that I have NFL Game Pass, I'll sometimes watch other games. During the week I'll watch a recent game featuring Miami's upcoming opponent for Sunday just to get a look at them.

These days I view things differently and get flack for it, and it all started with the hiring of Joe Philbin. I didn't like the style of offense he wanted to run, I didn't like that he neutered a defense with a Top 5 Rushing Defense, and I really hated that he got rid of every tough, physical player on the team. IMO Philbin was bad for the team, and they needed to get rid of him. So, I started seeing the games as entertainment; my heart always wanted them to win, but my brain wanted them to lose so that Philbin would be fired. If they played well, I was happy, and if they bombed I laughed, realizing that it was one loss closer to getting rid of Joe. It was a win/win situation in a weird sort of way.

For three and a half seasons I suffered through the Philbin Era, only to see him replaced with Gase... here we go again! I thought things would be different under Flores. It started out well and I see great potential on the defensive side of the ball, but this season has shown me that Grier and Flores are unable to build a competent o-line and running game after having 3 years of trades, Free Agency, and a ton of draft picks to do so. I hated the style of offense under the previous two regimes, but this current offense under Flores makes Philbin and Gase look like geniuses! So, I'm right back to where I was a decade ago. During the losing streak I hoped they'd keep losing so that it would be an easy choice for Ross to clean house, and hopefully he'd do it completely this time instead of just half-a**ed.

All that said, even though I disagree with posters who think that things are looking up, I don't attack them. OTOH, several posters have told me that I'm not a true fan if I want the team to lose or a person to fail. The way I see it, I want what's best for the present and future success of the team overall, and no one person, whether it's a player, Coach, or Front Office personnel, is more important than the team. I won't support someone just because they're on the team. If I think someone is detrimental to the team's success, then I want them gone. Is that wrong? Of course, there are other fans who might like a style of offense or a player/coach that I hate, so they're going to say I'm wrong. However, this is a discussion forum where people should be free to express their opinions while discussing our favorite team. IMO, as long as we're not attacking each other, every opinion is valid!
(Although, some opinions have more validity than others! :chuckle:)
 
Can't blame folks for being upset, it's been a sad state of affairs the last 20 or so years. Hope for the best in the draft and next season.
 
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