Stephen Ross's problems began when he didn't fire the HC and the GM when he bought the team. If Dan LeBatard is right and Ross's problem is he feels loyalty to those who are loyal to him, then cleaning house when he bought the team was the perfect scenario for making a change. Ross had no loyalty to anyone because he didn't know anyone. Parcells and his cronies had done nothing to bring success to this franchise, in fact, Parcells was engaging in an act of grand larceny both during the Huizenga and Ross regimes and after he gave Ross all of these assurances that they could continue to work together, he cleaned out his office and disappeared without anyone knowing it. Parcells was the last, of many blemishes that occurred under Huizenga's ownership. Ross had every right to clean out the whole rotten bunch of them and bring in new people. Not doing so was Ross's original sin, everything since then is compounding of his first mistake.
Now we're talking about firing a GM or firing a HC, but no one thinks they will both be fired and this is yet another error. So Ross fires Ireland, hires a new GM and forces a coach and philosophy not of his choosing on that new GM. Stupid. Or you fire Philbin, keep Ireland and let Ireland make another boatload of mistakes in hiring a coach and acquiring talent. This makes even less sense then the first scenario, but this appears, from all outward appearances to be the path in which Ross is going to walk. Of course, Ross can go a third route and not fire either one and give them both another year to prove they are a disaster of Biblical scale.
The French philosopher Jean Paul Sartre once told a story of a young man who came to him during WW2 and asked if he should stay home with his ailing mother, or run off and join the resistance. He told Sartre he had already asked a priest the same question, Sartre replied to the young man that one desires the sort of advice one seeks. Stephen Ross is receiving the sort of advice he wants. He's consulting people who all have long-standing relationships with Jeff Ireland or his mentor, Bill Parcells. I believe Carl Peterson gave Ireland one of his first jobs, and people like Dawn Aponte have long-standing associations with the Parcells machine, even if Ireland is now considered persona non grata by them because he held Ross's hand during the Harbaugh fiasco. Ross knows the answer he's going to get before he ever asks the question. Its not an honest process. And while I'm impressed with Ross's empathy for someone that showed great loyalty to Ross, even as it cost him his friends, I doubt Ross ever tolerated an employee that botched multi-million dollar real estate deals on a regular basis.