Tell that to Barry Sanders. God some people are stupid. I'm all for saying that we don't need Martin because he was not a good player. But lets not say he was 'soft' because he was respectful and kept to himself. One does not equate to the other. If Jonathan Martin was the second coming of Jonathan Ogden, every single person on this board bashing him would be full on board behind him. Lets differentiate between the player and the person. What Incognito did and has done has shown him to be a god-awful human being. Its unfortunate he's a good football player, or he'd be on some construction crew and no one would know him. Jonathan Martin seems to be a quiet, maybe not so strong-willed person, who has a ways to go to be a good football player.
As to why he didn't go to Philbin or Ireland or Sherman or the OLine coach......not saying he shouldn't have at least once....but....Philbin brings players to the front of rooms to make fun of their haircuts and tells guys to tie their shoes, the oline coach calls out his players for being fat slobs, and Ireland might ask him if he has an Oedipal complex. The coaching staff/front office needs to create an atmosphere where its players are comfortable. The players shouldn't have to fight for it. Lombardi made it clear to his players not only that racism wasn't acceptable, but that homophobia would not be allowed either. The coaching staff needs to make ALL of its players feel they can be themselves when they come to work.
The coaching staff and front office can come back from this in my mind, but they have to take things by the horns. Make some declarations. "Martin is welcome back when he is emotionally ready". "Bullying and hazing is expressly forbidden by the Miami Dolphins"....Cut Incognito...pay the penalty. He's not likely to ever play in the NFL again anyway. If Martin bites the big one, cut him in the offseason and cite poor play. While your at it, fire Sherman for being a DB and a pizz poor OC.