What Do Parents Tell Kids on Phins Player Problems?

[SWS84]

For me and my kids, I key on a foundational piece that is one of the most important things to them; their circle of friends. I encourage them to choose wisely by finding friends who share a common goal such as wanting to do well in school because they want to go to college, etc. and avoid the cool kids who are lazy, unfocused, and just want to clown around. I have explained that the so called cool kids can be good friends (I know because that's the route I went), but so can those considered nerdy and smart, and if they choose the later it can help keep them focused and avoid the pitfalls of things like guilty by association, etc.. I have 3 daughters, and my youngest is a huge dolphin fan. She thinks Pouncey should choose those he hangs out with more wisely because they don't really care about him. They only care about when and where the next party is.

 

[Dolphin North]

Yeah I know, and camp opens in 2 weeks. :) I am not parent, and wondered what those who are tell their kids when asked about things like bully gate with Cog, free Hernandez with Pouncey, etc and Jordan taking speed?

Today's kids, with tech,know a lot more than the past and are our future Phans. What do you tell them?

I have actually really pulled back on the whole fan thing. I have put away the hats, jerseys, jacket and other stuff and I just no longer remind my son of anything the team is doing. If they win a game I mention it but not with the same excitement as before. My son is actually very anti bully as we all claim to be, but he is very emphatic about it. He's a smart kid and he would ask tough questions like, "Why did they get rid of some of the guys involved, but keep others?" My only answer could be that Pouncey is a better player so they suspend the values they claim to have applied to Jerry and Incognito in his case. Claiming to have those values helps with image and marketing and that is what is really important here, not actually standing behind and executing those proclaimed values when it gets harder to do, which is actually what I try to teach my son as the meaning of character. Character, unfortunately and ironically, is another word the team throws around like it is one of their foundation concepts.

I'm pretty upset about bullying in general as well and the whole scandal did change the way I look at this team. So I just decided to try to walk the fine line of being loyal to my team, and not appearing to be a hypocrite to my son and will try to ride this out. I am in caught in a tough spot here, between loyalty and hypocrisy, so at least, when fans of other teams try to razz me a bit, I don't have my usual defense for this team. I just agree with them that right now the Dolphins are a joke at best, and a hypocritical franchise with no true values or character, which is what will probably sink the current caretakers of this team. When we have new people in here to the point that we can call it a new era, whether it be more coaching changes, more player changes, or an ownership change, I will hopefully become a proud fan again. For now I'm just a fan out of my own loyalty, but not a fanatic so much anymore. If my son decides to move on to a better organization I would not be as disappointed as I would have a year ago.

The losing was tolerable, but now I am just plain ashamed of this group and if my son ever asks why I talk less about the team I guess I would have to come clean.

 

[Dolphins7273]

You see, Johnny: The Dolphins front office suffers from this thing called "Being incredibly ****ing stupid", and that trickles down to the players that they choose to employ.

 

[phinking]

Yeah I know, and camp opens in 2 weeks. :) I am not parent, and wondered what those who are tell their kids when asked about things like bully gate with Cog, free Hernandez with Pouncey, etc and Jordan taking speed?

Today's kids, with tech,know a lot more than the past and are our future Phans. What do you tell them?

I would tell them that unless a man is a leader in his own home, he will never be a leader in an NFL lockeroom.

 

[phintim]

You tell them to do the right thing regardless of what others are doing. If you want to go line by line with bullying you tell them never to start a fight but never run from one either. Guys supporting their friends or teammates is cool but get all the fact first before you do. Drugs of any kind are usually a short cut and their is a price to paid for most short cuts in life. Mine are grown now but I always gave them some freedom to encourage them to make their own decisions as long as they did not hurt themselves to much when they were younger so they would have the self confidence the needed when they were adults. Really those 3 situations are great examples to speak with about with your child, as you can reinforce bad situations and their consequnces and your child will appreciate the time with you.

 

[tay0365]

Yeah I know, and camp opens in 2 weeks. :) I am not parent, and wondered what those who are tell their kids when asked about things like bully gate with Cog, free Hernandez with Pouncey, etc and Jordan taking speed?

Today's kids, with tech,know a lot more than the past and are our future Phans. What do you tell them?

I also don't have kids, but I would make sure they know Martin is a snake. :D

Actually I would make sure (As far as the Bullygate), I would tell them never ever Bully someone, but at the same time, don't be two faced. If you feel like you are being bullied by so called friends, STOP HANGING OUT WITH THEM.

Telling people you were bullied by people you were friends with looks really bad.