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I need your prayers, please

H.P. Lovedrafts said:
Yesterday, I had some really cool things planned for my 91 y/o mom on Mother's Day - a home-cooked dinner, one of her favorite old movies...the whole nine yards. But yesterday afternoon, she started having pains in her right side and shortness of breath, so I insisted we go to the emergency room (I'm her full-time unpaid caregiver BTW). As with all hospitals, we had a long wait in the ER. The nurses and staff were terrific and so kind and helpful to her. After having an EKG, a chest x-ray, a CT scan, and blood and urine analysis, the doctor asked me to step outside her room to talk. He told me she has a small amount of pneumonia, a small blood clot in her lungs, and a dark spot on her lung that he said could well be cancer. I felt absolutely gut punched. Even though my mom is 91, she's a healthy 91 with a sharp mind and a very independent attitude. I spent the rest of my time with my mom by her side trying to be as strong as I could for her. After they admitted her at 2:34 am, they sent me home and told me to come back today when visiting hours start at noon. As soon as I left the hospital, I let my guard down and the tears started flowing and my heart started racing. Even though i don't consider myself the strong one in the family, my mom insists I am amd constantly tells me she doesn't know what she'd do without me.

I beg of all my FinHeaven brothers and sisters to pray for my mom's health - and a miracle. And please pray for God to give me the strength to be the rock for my mom and my sister, and to give me the strength to enevitably clean our her huge house and sell it. Bills will be coming soon and I pray I have the sanity to keep the house afloat, juggling finances and not having a heart attack or nervous breakdown in the process.

My thanks to all of you in advance. And if any of you went through similar scenarios with your parents and would like to share your stories, I'd feel privileged to hear them.
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Sorry to hear that H.P, I somewhat went through the same as you in 2008, and know how tough it can be. My prayers are with you, your mom, and your family.

God gave me a slight miracle, hoping you will too.

God bless your mom.
 
Just went through this late January. As others have said, be present and hold each moment dear. Say all the things you want to say to her. My mother and I had that kind of relationship / similar to what you’re describing. That there was nothing left unsaid or not understood by either of us has helped immeasurably. Also, make sure she’s comfortable. The hospital can be a machine / assembly line of nurses and doctors coming and going, taking readings, putting into the computer and so on. Ask questions - advocate for her. Try to know what’s going on because it often won’t be volunteered. I feel for you. Be strong.
 
H.P. Lovedrafts said:
Yesterday, I had some really cool things planned for my 91 y/o mom on Mother's Day - a home-cooked dinner, one of her favorite old movies...the whole nine yards. But yesterday afternoon, she started having pains in her right side and shortness of breath, so I insisted we go to the emergency room (I'm her full-time unpaid caregiver BTW). As with all hospitals, we had a long wait in the ER. The nurses and staff were terrific and so kind and helpful to her. After having an EKG, a chest x-ray, a CT scan, and blood and urine analysis, the doctor asked me to step outside her room to talk. He told me she has a small amount of pneumonia, a small blood clot in her lungs, and a dark spot on her lung that he said could well be cancer. I felt absolutely gut punched. Even though my mom is 91, she's a healthy 91 with a sharp mind and a very independent attitude. I spent the rest of my time with my mom by her side trying to be as strong as I could for her. After they admitted her at 2:34 am, they sent me home and told me to come back today when visiting hours start at noon. As soon as I left the hospital, I let my guard down and the tears started flowing and my heart started racing. Even though i don't consider myself the strong one in the family, my mom insists I am amd constantly tells me she doesn't know what she'd do without me.

I beg of all my FinHeaven brothers and sisters to pray for my mom's health - and a miracle. And please pray for God to give me the strength to be the rock for my mom and my sister, and to give me the strength to enevitably clean our her huge house and sell it. Bills will be coming soon and I pray I have the sanity to keep the house afloat, juggling finances and not having a heart attack or nervous breakdown in the process.

My thanks to all of you in advance. And if any of you went through similar scenarios with your parents and would like to share your stories, I'd feel privileged to hear them.
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Strong prayers to you and your mom brother. Hang in there. My family went to hell and back with my Dad in the hospital. The best I can offer is you need to stand a vigil in that room. Make sure someone is in there 100% of visitor hours and keep careful notes of any comments and know the medicines she takes like the back of your hand. More people end up getting worse because of affects new medicine have on other medicine than anything. If you don;t think something sounds right. Say something. If they don't hear it, shout it at them. Don't be afraid to tell nurses and doctors to not come back until you have the right people handling her care.

Hang in there brother. We're all here for you.
 
H.P. Lovedrafts said:
Yesterday, I had some really cool things planned for my 91 y/o mom on Mother's Day - a home-cooked dinner, one of her favorite old movies...the whole nine yards. But yesterday afternoon, she started having pains in her right side and shortness of breath, so I insisted we go to the emergency room (I'm her full-time unpaid caregiver BTW). As with all hospitals, we had a long wait in the ER. The nurses and staff were terrific and so kind and helpful to her. After having an EKG, a chest x-ray, a CT scan, and blood and urine analysis, the doctor asked me to step outside her room to talk. He told me she has a small amount of pneumonia, a small blood clot in her lungs, and a dark spot on her lung that he said could well be cancer. I felt absolutely gut punched. Even though my mom is 91, she's a healthy 91 with a sharp mind and a very independent attitude. I spent the rest of my time with my mom by her side trying to be as strong as I could for her. After they admitted her at 2:34 am, they sent me home and told me to come back today when visiting hours start at noon. As soon as I left the hospital, I let my guard down and the tears started flowing and my heart started racing. Even though i don't consider myself the strong one in the family, my mom insists I am amd constantly tells me she doesn't know what she'd do without me.

I beg of all my FinHeaven brothers and sisters to pray for my mom's health - and a miracle. And please pray for God to give me the strength to be the rock for my mom and my sister, and to give me the strength to enevitably clean our her huge house and sell it. Bills will be coming soon and I pray I have the sanity to keep the house afloat, juggling finances and not having a heart attack or nervous breakdown in the process.

My thanks to all of you in advance. And if any of you went through similar scenarios with your parents and would like to share your stories, I'd feel privileged to hear them.
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Prayers for her and to you and your family brother. My mom is in a nursing home(she's 87) and I visit her at least 4 times a week so I know what is like.
 
Prayers to you and your family. I lost both my parents without any advance notice, we went through a short illness with my father in law as I buried my Mom.

It’s never easy, try to be as strong as you can for your other family members my friend but it’s ok to cry and let things out when you can, it’s all part of the process.
 
H.P. Lovedrafts said:
Yesterday, I had some really cool things planned for my 91 y/o mom on Mother's Day - a home-cooked dinner, one of her favorite old movies...the whole nine yards. But yesterday afternoon, she started having pains in her right side and shortness of breath, so I insisted we go to the emergency room (I'm her full-time unpaid caregiver BTW). As with all hospitals, we had a long wait in the ER. The nurses and staff were terrific and so kind and helpful to her. After having an EKG, a chest x-ray, a CT scan, and blood and urine analysis, the doctor asked me to step outside her room to talk. He told me she has a small amount of pneumonia, a small blood clot in her lungs, and a dark spot on her lung that he said could well be cancer. I felt absolutely gut punched. Even though my mom is 91, she's a healthy 91 with a sharp mind and a very independent attitude. I spent the rest of my time with my mom by her side trying to be as strong as I could for her. After they admitted her at 2:34 am, they sent me home and told me to come back today when visiting hours start at noon. As soon as I left the hospital, I let my guard down and the tears started flowing and my heart started racing. Even though i don't consider myself the strong one in the family, my mom insists I am amd constantly tells me she doesn't know what she'd do without me.

I beg of all my FinHeaven brothers and sisters to pray for my mom's health - and a miracle. And please pray for God to give me the strength to be the rock for my mom and my sister, and to give me the strength to enevitably clean our her huge house and sell it. Bills will be coming soon and I pray I have the sanity to keep the house afloat, juggling finances and not having a heart attack or nervous breakdown in the process.

My thanks to all of you in advance. And if any of you went through similar scenarios with your parents and would like to share your stories, I'd feel privileged to hear them.
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All of our prayers are with you, H.P. Regrettably, most all of us have to weather this storm one day. Your mother sounds like a strong lady. And I am sure she sees her strength in you too. Keep each other's company, reassure you and your siblings' love for her. And make her comfortable. Being strong does not mean you cannot be emotional or vulnerable.
 
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