themole
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FinaticalOne said:Fortunately for me, I have a very understanding wife. My wife is from England, so she had no exposure to american football until she came to states. When we first met, she was immediately exposed to the rituals my friends and I do on gameday. We alternate houses for football parties and so on. We've been together 7 years; 2 years married now; she still doesn't watch football but she understands that the Dolphins game is my time of enjoyment and relaxation. She won't make plans for us to do things together doing that time, and since she is very understanding to that matter; when the Fins aren't playing; I make sure I participate in a lot of things she likes to do, like the torture of watching Lifetime movies or other family-themed movies :cry: , or when she wants to do some shopping for herself and her friends can't make it :eek: ; I'll go to keep her company so she's not alone. Even though Lifetime movies bore me to death and I have no patience going shopping with her because she wants to try on everything in the store, leave that store without buying anything; go to another store and repeat the same process, then leave without buying anything only to go back to the previous store to buy something she thought she didn't want the first time she was in the store. I just grin and bear it because of how understanding she's is with me and my love to my Fins.
:evil: BUT...
There has been a couple of occasions over the last seven years when her relatives have a tendency to plan get togethers on Sundays (go figure ). Her family lives in New York, it's about 2 1/2 hours from us and I hate driving in New York; it's the worst. At least they give us early notice of the function, so we let them know in advance that we will be going. When we get closer to that date and if the game has serious ramifications; I will play sick about two days early and continue to pour it on a little more as it gets closer to going to New York. When it's time to leave, I'm at my worst; she will go with her mom and sisters to New York and leave me home to recuperate:evil:.
Now I haven't played sick during all of her family functions, just the few that were scheduled during the football seasons. So I've been to more than I've missed, and I always have a good time when I do go; but my Fins games are priority man . They can't be messin' up my Sundays like that. How dare they...
Sounds like a nice balance to me. You have it figured out.