You're dead wrong....the majority of today's head coaches (the successful ones....well, Belicheat mostly can get away with being ornery because of his pedigree) are in a so called "partnership" with the players because that's just the way it is today. Gone are the old bossy, "how dare you question me - do as told" coaches.....it doesn't work in today's NFL. The surest way today to lose a team is to try and be the hard azz coach......even Tom Coughlin found this out and had to change from one of the toughest NFL coaches ever to a more compliant and "nicer guy" coach.....he was in a situation where he had to adapt to today's pampered, entitled millionaire players or become extinct (and I'm sure he hated it but he did it to continue coaching). Guys like Mike Singletary, Jim Harbaugh, idiot Saban, etc. tried the tough head coach route and failed. Now, that's not to say that they have to check with or get agreement from the players in playcalling, day to day coaching/running of the team, roster, trades, etc....but the coach has to be more of a co worker or team leader vs. a high & mighty boss.
I don't like it and I feel it's been a real detriment to the game & the weakening (performance & mentality....not strength) of the overall player pool today but it is what it is.
BTW....it's "losing" not "loosing" (pet peeve!)
Here's an older but good article touching on what I mean (and referring to Coughlin needing to change):
http://www.espn.com/nfl/playoffs07/columns/story?columnist=garber_greg&id=3200779
"Coughlin, now 61 and the last of the NFL's head coaching dinosaurs, somehow modestly changed his spots. The days of snarling, domineering head coaches such as Vince Lombardi and Mike Ditka are gone. Modern athletes question authority; fire and brimstone no longer invokes fear, but it almost always guarantees loathing."